Sunday, September 21, 2014



 Maxwell Falls hike



Venice and I stayed home from church today because I have pinkeye and a cold. On Monday, Keller and Lincoln woke up with it, but by Thursday I thought that we’d finished it off and somehow Wes, Nissy, and I had escaped. Thursday night brought on lots of awake time between the kids and ample time to clean out my nasty eyes. We hoped they’d clear up by today, but my body seems to be the slowest to recover; granted it’s doing a great job and I’m quite impressed that I’m only mildly sick and still able to care for our family. Wesley hasn’t felt 100% for almost three weeks, but he has not completely succumbed to anything. Hurrah for our miraculous mortality!

As a result of our germs, we’ve tried to avoid interacting with the outside world. We picked up my new glasses and went to two parks on Thursday when I thought we were no longer contagious. Sorry, world.

We’ve had a few incidents this week that have helped me reflect on how protected we are. Last Sunday while I tried to maneuver the van out of the tight one-way parking lot, I scratched the front driver’s side corner of someone’s shiny new(ish) truck with the middle passenger door of our van. Our van has a tiny scratch you can’t see through the dirt. The truck didn’t get out so well. Lincoln: “Mom! We just had a car wreck! Why did we hit their truck?” (It was his door that hit, I don’t blame him for curiosity or concern…) This story is still in progress. Then! On Wednesday I was backing out of our driveway to share our grape juice with sick friends. I looked behind me six times. The mail truck was parked across the road. Crunch. The mail carrier was making arm motions like, “What the heck?” and the mail truck was actually parked right in front of our driveway. Coupled with Sunday’s incident, lack of sleep, and my emotional self—I totally lost it. The poor woman told me that the mail truck couldn’t be hurt and that it is “a piece of [crap] anyway” as she gave me a hug. Bless her. Nothing scratched. No one hurt. Lincoln: “Why do you keep hitting people’s trucks?” Good question. I didn’t answer sufficiently because I was gasping for air in my hysterical response. I’m pretty sure our fireman neighbor witnessed the whole thing. I hope he laughed because it is comical. We tried not to drive for the rest of the week.

During this, we received Venice’s hospital bill. There has been a mix-up with the insurance and records. Thankfully, Blue Cross Blue Shield has been extremely helpful in figuring it out. Bless them!

As I pulled myself together midweek I remembered (understatement: the Spirit reminded me) President Uchtdorf’s talk on gratitude. We are to be grateful “in whatever circumstances we are in” and not just grateful for things. While I am extremely grateful for our safety, protection, near invincible vehicle, strong bodies, kind neighbors and mail carriers and insurance providers and insurance employees, I realized that the Plan of Happiness, my covenants, our wonderful little family fill me with deeper, eternal gratitude. Even with swollen mucus eyes and stupid mistakes, I have a lot of joy—a kind of joy that isn’t going to go away. What a blessing to see this.
Yesterday we hiked on the Maxwell Falls trail. It is a true mountain trail: boulders, roots, huge trees. We saw bright yellow aspens, felt a variety of evergreen needles, and rejoiced in the beauty of the earth. Levi and Lincoln climbed an enormous rock. Keller almost burst with happiness as he scrambled up and down on the trail rocks, counted dogs, pointed out water. Venice snuggled in her wrap and slept peacefully. While we didn’t make it to the falls, we had a wonderful time and heard some entertaining comments about our “very large family” all out on the trail. We kind of flabbergast people. Who knew that we would testify of family and its importance in God’s plan just by going on hikes or running errands?

Levi’s class has a “morning meeting” each day where they talk, do some breathing exercises, and just prepare for the day. His teacher pulls out a few kids’ names to have a turn talking. Monday she pulled out Levi’s name. He told them all about pinkeye. His friends ran away faster in tag that day than usual! Ha! As he went to bed on Friday he sighed, “Oh, I’m so excited for Monday to find out who the new Superkid is!” (Superkids is a reading program they use. I like it so far. Each Superkid teaches them about a letter and its primary sound.) We are all so excited to see him after school and he’s ready to cool down. He has learned the purpose of “I don’t really want to talk right now”—it has helped us all chill out. He has blossomed into a social little creature. He wants to talk to everyone. As a result, Keller wants to as well. Everywhere we go they shout out, “Hi! How are you?” and then fill in anyone who pauses with myriad information: names, ninja turtles, favorite animals, pinkeye, etc. A sweet older gentleman sat down at the pharmacy with us on Friday. He gave each boy a shiny new penny and talked away with them. He was totally awesome.

Lincoln cracks me up. I finished Levi’s GT application this week. As I reflected on the “15 Traits of Giftedness” that Levi has, I looked at Lincoln’s as well. This chart has been extremely helpful to me in re-contexting some of the stuff we deal with everyday. Our kids are from completely different spheres, but all are so gifted—with all that comes with it. Lincoln tells me amazing stories all day long—especially as I have folded laundry and disinfected everything a billion times this week. He tells me the origin of his Lego creations, what he’ll do when he grows up, the many “fires” he put out that day, what he does when he’s a monster, etc. He determined that he will stop saying, “I will kill you!” because it’s mean, but he can say, “I will kill you—bad guy!” Lincoln wanted to sit by me while I read a story during the day. Keller wanted to sit there also. Lincoln invited Keller to sit on his lap. Problem solved. Did I mention he ran most of the way back to our van on the hike? In boots.

Keller wants to tell us more than he currently can. He’s so expressive. Unfortunately, the understanding gap frustrates him. He threw an impressive tantrum in the middle of our road (quiet cul-de-sac, few cars during the day) for ten minutes. He knows how to kick, roll, and scream. He also knows how to jabber. When he heard the fridge grumble during lunch, he widened his eyes in mock-fear then whispered, “MONSTER! HIDE!” So hilarious. He runs to Venice, “HI!” then he tells her about the things she’s touching—particularly if she swipes him. Then he squeals like, “You got me!” His new way to love her is to lay his head on her tummy while she’s in her bouncy seat. Then they coo at each other. He read her Smile, Pout-Pout Fish! this morning.

We made some rattles for Venice, opened up the baby toys, and thoroughly enjoyed her wakefulness this week. Her hair sticks up everywhere. She smiles and talks. “MOM! She just said ‘hi!’ to me!” She loves to lay on the floor and wiggle. She loves the warmth of cuddling, but sometimes she just needs some space—which is just fine for all of us. Most nights she only wakes up twice. We’re all enthralled with her.

Wesley attended a local AIChE meeting and talked with some great people on Tuesday. He connected more with another post-doc from NREL. He learned more about hydro-fracking. Good experience. He was able to go to ward temple night on Thursday. We love having a temple so close! Work progresses well. Wesley progresses even more. We all erupt when he comes home. We are so happy to have him around so often these days.

Sunday, September 14, 2014



Let’s just start at the beginning! So much for artful organization. I don’t even know how to do that anymore!

Monday: Since it was an assessment day for the school district, Levi did not have school. This correlated nicely with a free day at the Natural History Museum. We only skimmed part of the space section and dinosaur bones. There are four levels, a “discovery zone” for kids, a huge spot for preschool projects and story times, mummies, a planetarium, IMAX theater (currently featuring stuff on D-Day), and so much more. The current obsession is eagles. I think this came about since Levi’s school mascot is an eagle (hence, they SOAR by being safe, on task, and respectful). The boys spent 15 minutes in front of the panorama of golden eagles and another 10 in front of the bald eagles. After a few minutes Lincoln noticed the rabbit in between the talons of an eagle. “Is that rabbit already dead? Did the eagle kill the rabbit?” Then he started crying, which was really cute. “But! But! I really like rabbits! Sometimes I am a rabbit! I’m going to kill that eagle!” This was the point when we decided to go somewhere else in the museum. That night he tearfully reported about the rabbit to Wes and also his revenge plan.

Levi has discovered nicknames. I told him we used to call him “the Levster” and he thought I said the “Love Monster”—either works!

Levi wanted to bear his testimony last week but we didn’t have time or substantial preparation to ensure a positive experience. For FHE we had a family testimony meeting. We shared a very tender Spirit. Levi told us that he knows that Jesus loves us and that the scriptures are true. Keller stood on the chair (pretend pulpit) and smiled at us. All of our kids are such powerful people. We glimpsed them in a bit more of an eternal perspective.

Wesley hosted a professor that his group is collaborating with on Monday. He went to work early and stayed late. Now the two sides understand each other more; the work is exciting and moving forward. Hurrah!

Tuesday: Lincoln, Keller, and I picked some concord grapes from our back yard. Eight cups of grapes ended up being a tad over two cups of juice. Still fun. That night I attended my first PTA meeting. It is comprised of a lot of different people; I’m excited to help the school and learn more about this community. I was able to talk to X-sander’s mom some more, which I thoroughly enjoyed. I rushed home to host book group which is always fun and interesting. So many fascinating people and ideas in the world!

Wednesday: Venice went eight hours between feedings! Whoa! Everyone slept in to fight off colds. We fought colds all week. Levi coughed but acted fine—so he went to school. Each day was something he just couldn’t miss. “I have to be there! We’re doing bus safety today!” It was chilly and overcast in the morning, but we met friends at the park anyway. Of course the boys found the little stream that is a blast in the summer—but cold in 50 degrees! I decided to be a cool mom and let them splash anyway. We warmed up at home with a bath. Keller loves a book called Smile Pout-Pout Fish! It has proved to be the turning point for him. He sits on the couch to read it. He sits on my lap. He brings other books and then stays to read them. YAY! That night I attended a Gifted and Talented meeting. I’m still torn about the whole thing (the name is so weird—who could ever say that any of God’s children is not “gifted” in some way!), but we’ve determined to apply for the program. You have to apply a year in advance, so Levi would start in first grade. After the application he will have to take a three hour test. We’ll see. We’re all churning and learning.

Thursday: Lincoln told me that he was going to eat all of our family. Quite vicious eating, actually. Then he would eat himself. Then he paused thoughtfully, “But how will I eat my face?” We wonder if we should worry about his desire to kill and destroy things, especially considering how compassionate and tender he is as well. Maybe we’ll send him to hunt with Uncle Jared.

Lincoln called out “BYU! BYU!” as we walked home from Levi’s school. Keller copied him exactly. Keller can also make all the sounds from Plants vs. Zombies. He makes an amazing Crazy Dave. Lincoln spells his name to the song “BINGO” then giggles wildly. Nissy smiled for the first time. At Lincoln. Almost all of her smiles have been for him. He talks, she listens and smiles. When we pick Levi up from school he points to all of the kids he knows to tell us their names and what they like. He feels it necessary to spread the word of TMNT. He’s intrigued with a girl’s hair: she wears it in two high ponytails that are braided—the braids reach her bum. The new boy is named Diesel. He ran and ran with Jason. I love this part of the day. He has earned 26 SOAR bucks.

Wes went on visits with the missionaries. Before he left we prayed that he’d be able to find those who were ready to return to church. He did! He met one family that was baptized a year ago. The mom and daughter had to work this week, but the son was able to come. Wonderful experience.

Friday: We’ve all been working on using our words. Times of conflict mean I need to stop, look, and listen. Times of conflict usually land during dinner prep. Dinner is not as important as working things out. We all have to learn how to work things out! Wes and I have taken the stop, look, and listen approach after one of our scripture study sessions. It has enabled us to see much better, to train, to practice what matters. It’s a relief to have the Spirit testify that you’re doing something right.

Saturday: Levi woke screaming because he couldn’t open his eyes. Don’t you love pink eye? They were bright red, sticky, and sunken. After an urgent care visit and a zillion-year pharmacy wait (I’m still repenting about my impatience and frustration and tone when I told them after an hour wait that we were not going to come back on Monday…then the pharmacist looked at Levi and said, “Oh! He really does need this!” I think I growled at him.) we got an uber-antibiotic eye drop that is supposed to clear you from being contagious after one drop. We don’t know if that’s actually possible, but we’re glad to have it. The doctor says we can use it even on Nissy if she gets it. I had an optometrist visit—my doctor turned out to be LDS with two kids on missions and now my backup glasses are ordered. Wes, though sick, mowed the lawn, played with boys, and led the family effort of picking and juicing grapes. I love working together as a family. We even slipped in haircuts before the day ended. Thank goodness for leftovers!

Today I walked with the kids to church while Wes went to pick someone up for church. Wes walked Levi back home, then came back because he’d given me the keys and they couldn’t get in the house! Wes needed to stay home, too, since he’s been fighting the crud all week. The three little ones did pretty well during sacrament meeting thanks to a sweet sister who gave them tiny flashlights to play with and let them examine the gargoyle tattoo on her calf. I prayed all night that we’d be well enough to go to nursery. I just needed to be there. Levi’s eyes are clearing and no one else has it (miraculous!). The kids mostly stayed in their chairs for our lesson. They loved playing “Find the Prophet” (hiding a picture then searching the room for it). I love testifying of living prophets. Heavenly Father continues to guide us! I have no doubt.

 First day of school!

Grandma Venice Buttars with Venice Christine Cole

 Nissy with great-Grandparents Keller

 Labor Day hike at Mayhem Gulch

 Natural History Museum!

 Slightly awkward face fixed with a kiss. Thanks Aunt Angie and Johnny for the darling outfit!

 Project: Grape Juice