Monday, June 24, 2013

 Building at the Children's Museum




Wesley left last Sunday afternoon for D.C. While there he attended the ACC and an energy conference. They held a reception at the air and space museum, situations always arose to enable him to talk to people that he needed to talk with, and he was awarded the best speaker in his session. He ran by the capital building. He saw the Lincoln and Washington Memorials. Someday we’ll have to go there together with a little more time! He returned Wednesday evening for dinner and re-packing then flew to Denver early the next morning. He gave a presentation, talked with people who research buildings, ate what he dubbed “Boulder Bars” (a granola bar series made primarily of dates), went on a hike, learned more about Dr. Henze on his committee, and enjoyed Colorado, blessed state. He returned home last night/this morning around one. He was scheduled to land here at 5:30, but his flight was delayed, then cancelled. He was the first on standby on an already overbooked flight—but a party of four decided to take the money and wait, so he came home to us! In our family prayer, we prayed for Wesley to return home sooner rather than later if it was best; this was about the time that the party of four made their choice. We’re so glad to have him home! Lincoln has run in every morning looking for him; when he was mad, he moaned, “Daaadddy! Daaaaaaaaaaddddy!” Levi has counted down the days to his return. Keller was very excited to see him on Wednesday and this morning. What an awesome man I married. We’d be a complete wreck without him. We’ve (mostly me) broken two dishes, melted a good spoon in the dishwasher, dropped a variety of things (including the gallon of milk which only cracked the plastic—we saved most of it in an ice cream bucket!), and gone through a lot of surprise laundry.

Everyone is expanding his verbal capacities and ranges. Call. Levi and Lincoln will give you a hurried earful. Keller will provide background music. He coos and gurgles and echoes and laughs whenever we encourage consonants. He practices a lot with his mouth, though, which is encouraging. Loudly. Levi makes a concerted effort to work on the end sound of words (of his own volition). Lincoln seems to have broken his robotic monotone in exchange for a fully expressive slew of everything. In the middle of our plan for the day he told me, “No, no, no. I want to go to the park with Eli today.” I’m trying to determine if I should just give up on the effort to stop the screaming (or maintain it outside!).

Levi rediscovered the cowboy boots. On they went with the athletic shorts. He found some for Lincoln. They transformed into fire fighters. We drew a map, sat in the “truck” seats, drove on the road as shown, and ran to save the people. Amazingly, the fire was in apartment buildings in Colorado. We had to save Dad from the top floor. Levi grabbed “Dad,” carried him carefully down the ladder, then threw him unceremoniously out of the smoke before he went to save others flailing in the flames. I taught him to dribble in basketball and soccer. He has played basketball during the dinner-making hour and we’ve played some exciting soccer in the park. So fun. In the bathtub one night, he stood to do baptisms for the dead and “all our family who need our help.” I’m sure they’re chuckling about that—especially since he begins, “And I have the Priesthood!” Friday morning I asked him what he thought the gender of Holly’s babies were: a boy and a girl. He looked at me like, “Duh.” That afternoon Holly had to go to the hospital (unexpectedly) and ultrasounds showed that he is correct again. Since he could talk, he hasn’t been wrong. (Holly is home now and supposed to “take it easy” now—but okay! Phew!).

Lincoln wore underpants all week, day and night. He had two and a half accidents—one of them at night which I don’t really count. I’m impressed. He likes the RUN to the potty part. He ran down the ramp at church today. Then crashed. And bled. He scratched his forehead, nose, and lip. Thankfully it was just a scratch! That boy barely misses so many disasters! Angels! He put on his shoes, kissed my knees, and said, “I’m going to live with Dad in Colorado. Bye.” In less than two minutes, he was upstairs unloading the suitcases (which are all packed very tightly together!). We went visiting teaching. He determined to sit with me instead of playing in her toy area. He told a huge anecdote about yucky food, chickens, and dairy cows. He has wanted explanations of the world on repeat. (“Why is it stinky? Why did the spoon burn?” times about a zillion). We bought a membership to the children’s museum. They dressed up in construction vests and hard hats to use the tools, but he slipped out of it, “It is too big for me. I will grow later.” Despite the crowd, lunch in the heat outside, the wrong parking garage, and a return to the museum because we couldn’t find a potty—he loved it and even stayed pretty close to me. One of my favorite moments was when he sang out “zaftig” to the tune of “How Firm a Foundation” (his current favorite). His newest phrase, “Mom! You can listen to me! You can talk to me!” when I’m on the phone or helping his brothers.

Keller usually spends my shower time kicking cupboards. He loves the noise. He loves kicking. He surprised me by crawling right in to the walk-in shower, very proudly. Today he inch-wormed from the living room to the kitchen sink. He was happy and gurgling until he found my feet. He looked up at me, smiled, then dramatically collapsed onto my toes and wailed until I picked him up. Don’t tell me my boys can’t communicate effectively. Good grief. He loves eating. He watches his pincher fingers intently. Then he just takes a fist full and shoves it in his face. Not a good idea. I’ve almost convinced him to use the sippy cup, at least for sipping. He needs it since we spend about two or three hours every morning outside; it’s close to 100 by 10 a.m. He’s drooling again and I can feel the beginnings of more teeth. Ouch. He took my face in his hands and giggled (rather than chewing on it!). He likes to grab Lincoln’s face the best; Lincoln loves it too. Keller loves Eskimo kisses--probably because Lincoln rubs their faces together. He also follows Lincoln's example of head banging. If he does it in his high chair it will roll. Oh the things we do  to move. He enjoys playing soccer as I hold him. He loves passing the basketball around. While Wes was gone, we took the opportunity to let him cry through the night. Again. I don’t know if anything is improving. He seems better rested overall though—and has even napped! So, yes. Things are improving on that front.

This week I finished a challenge given by our RS presidency to read the Book of Mormon in 40 days. I always love reading the Book of Mormon; each time seems specially tailored. When the challenge was first introduced, I admit I thought, "Oh, what a nice idea—too bad I'm already focusing on different study." As the day continued, I reflected on the challenge. Someone once commented on the significance of following the prophets’ suggestions instead of waiting for commandments. I determined that if my devoted Relief Society leaders had considered this challenged and deemed it worthy, then I should follow. So I prayed about it and started the next morning. What a blessing. Each day has inspired new connections and helped me talk about the importance of the Book of Mormon with the boys. Equally important, I've gained a greater testimony of the importance of following the counsel and encouragement of my leaders. I've felt the Lord's love for me and for those He calls to guide us. I've felt the significance of Relief Society and the compassion I need to gain. I love the scriptures. I love Relief Society.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Catching up through pictures...



 Lincoln at the library

 Splash pad


 Birthday tie! (It says CTR)

 ChemE service project a few weeks ago

 Temple cake. Shaped cakes are not my specialty.

Happy Father’s Day! What a gift to have righteous fathers in our lives! We are grateful for our heritage. You remind me of 4 Nephi 1:15-16, “And it came to pass that there was no contention in the land, because of the love of God which did dwell in the hearts of the people….surely there could not be a happier people among all the people who had been created by the hand of God.” Our fathers have watched, taught, protected, and provided. Each year my appreciation of fatherhood increases as I watch Wesley’s capacities and discernment increase. He has been trained by so many examples—and he continues to learn so well. He constantly refines his actions to meet the will of the Lord. I love watching him pray because you can see that he truly counsels with our Father in Heaven. So I always know we’re safe. We’ll be okay no matter what happens. What a wonderful, wonderful man I somehow snatched. And what a superb daddy he is.  How is it possible to assume the people we love most as constant fixtures in our lives? Wesley’s calling and work have helped me notice how much he does (simply by being present!) to smooth out the storms, frustrations, and restore peace. He always takes time after work to sit on the couch and listen patiently to the boys report their daily extravaganzas. Usually, he’s in charge of bath time (and the connected splashing and screaming). He teaches them about tools and trucks, prophets and scripture. He keeps up on all of our maintenance issues—and most of those aren’t physical!

Wesley went to conferences in Austin all week, met with fellow researchers, worked on a book chapter he’s been asked to write, practiced presentations, and pretty much ran full speed in everything that is required of him for work. Add people, institute, and family. On Friday he came home for an hour, hurriedly packed, ate, and drove a bunch of teachers and priests out to a campout. That night a profane, somewhat drunken, argument ensued in the campground next to them. It escalated so much that the YM president had to call the cops—and four cars arrived. All of this in miserable, humid heat. The boys were ready to just go home in the morning. They felt better after jumping off a few cliffs into a lake, calling the whole experience a resounding success. He came home to play around with the washing machine so I could keep filling it up (I thought we could go a while, but—aside from the stuff I did Monday and Tuesday—I did laundry most of Thursday, all day Friday, some Saturday, and will have another 6 loads tomorrow!) This afternoon Wesley left for Washington DC where he’ll attend two different conferences. He’ll come home for about 12 hours on Wednesday then fly to Denver for more conferences until Saturday. Whew! I’m hoping he’ll get more sleep while away…

Levi wanted a temple recommend to go with his temple shaped birthday cake—complete with a Lego Moroni with a bugle, as provided by Daddy. We made a little card that he has proudly carried around in his wallet. He even signed it. On Tuesday morning he cracked his door open, giggling. “Today is my birthday!” He ran into me. His next excited phrase: “Now Lincoln can be two and a half!” They both celebrated. Wes worked from home so we could go to the pool together in the morning. No one else was there. The boys loved it (despite the large bugs floating around after a warm night! Ew!) Since we were already wet, I took the boys to a splashpad-type park near us. Levi has carefully observed other kids climb up a huge rock wall tower. That day, he looked at me matter of factly, “I want to climb that.” And so he did. Without any problems. Lincoln tried to stretch his little arms and legs, concluding that “I’m still learning.” I was proud of them both. We were all pretty wiped out at the end of the partying in the heat. Despite all the hype over the cake, Levi told us that it hurt his tummy. After a few bites he stopped eating it and hasn’t eaten any more since. Wow—self control! (He requested trail mix with dried fruit instead! Haha!) Lincoln said his tummy hurt as he shoved enormous portions of cake into his mouth. We froze one layer: Wes and Lincoln took the other two down. Thank you for your sweet gifts and birthday wishes. Isn’t “Happy Birthday to You” such a delightful song? Levi has also discovered the joys of cover sheets and folders. He spent an hour organizing pictures during rest time. He also Swiffered the wood floor all on his own; it looks impressively good.

Lincoln has determined that being a big brother is serious work. When Keller wakes in the morning, he dashes to the crib trying to beat me there so he can climb in. On Monday, he curled up around Keller, whispering, “Good morning, Keller. We are brothers!” One night the big boys had to be in their room while I calmed Keller down. Screaming. More screaming. Lincoln chucked all of the available board books at Levi (granted, this began earlier with Levi as the thrower). Lincoln, Levi, and I all ended up scratched and bruised on the face. Totally awesome. The board books were off limits for a while. We met our friends at a new covered park with a wooden playground—three bridges, five turrets, tube and open slides, monkey bars, the works. It also had a basketball court with a lowered hoop and a soccer field set up at half field with small nets. Loved it! Very tanned. It was 100 degrees by 10 a.m. that day. Blessed SPF 50. Lincoln ran, ran, ran, and sweated. Then didn’t nap. At least he does this pleasantly. I reminded him he can have underpants when he can consistently tell us he needs to use the potty before he goes. We’re on three days running and absolutely no misses. Tomorrow we’ll brave the superhero garb.

Keller officially sits and officially inchworms. Everywhere. He pulls forward with his arms, sticks his bum up high, kicks with his toes, and starts over—until he reaches his goal. He discovered a particular fondness for the spot behind the toilet (you know, next to the scrubber and the plunger). He pulled apart a collapsible laundry basket all on his own. He loves the pool—but it’s not a good idea to put a baby in a public pool. His skin is still recovering. He loves the parks and slides. He loves swinging in the baby swings. He started sitting on the potty very patiently (at his brothers’ request). And he slept through the night then had two long naps. No one quite knew what to do. He moves a lot faster when well rested. I’ll take it! He struggled sitting through church today. He scooted under the bench and tried to eat the young man’s shoelaces in front of us. He eats his big toe. He’s starting to figure out sippy cups—warily. He downs finger foods, grunting in satisfaction as he eats. He lights up when he sees Wes—especially when he can tip backwards off of Daddy’s lap. I subbed again in nursery and he was bombarded by loving hands. He sings. Loudly. No one will need to instruct him on being seen and heard within the brotherhood.

This week I’ve decided I’ve got to be more proactive and just move forward—right out of my square inch I trap myself in. Thankfully, I’ve got a loving Savior on one side and Wesley on the other.